She was a pretty simple lady, not philosophical, not interested in politics, she lived her life letting her actions speak for themselves. She never tried to change the world, she simply invested herself in her family. At 86 years old she was always ready to go, just pick up the phone, give her a call, and hit the road. It didn’t matter what we were doing or where we were going, she was always game. Her spontaneity was an inspiration and she exited this world much in the way she lived. The picture of health for some one her age, my father talked to her on Wednesday afternoon, she was cleaning house and had just purchased a new microwave (with a 10 year warranty). She simply went to bed Wednesday evening and never woke up.
As hard as it is, I’m happy for her, she deserved such a gracious exit, she earned it. And her funeral, just as gracious, a simple grave side ceremony, for a simple lady, who was always thinking for everyone else first. The family added the visitation to her (our) wishes, we simply needed more time with her.
Doris Schopp Atkinson Weir, 86 of Columbia, died Thursday August 6, 2009 at her home in Columbia. Graveside service will be at 1:00pm, Monday, August 10, 2009 at Columbia Cemetery. Visitation will be from 11:00am to 1:00pm, Monday at Parker Funeral Service. Doris was born December 28, 1922 in St Louis to Carl John and Florence Ann Ouhrabka Schopp. Doris graduated High School in St Louis and attended the University of Missouri. She was married to Glen D. Atkinson on July 4, 1942, he died January 11, 1960. She later married Vernon E. Weir on August 19, 1961, he died March 12, 1989. She was a very active volunteer for the Boy Scouts for many years. She loved her family very much and always enjoyed time with all of them. Doris moved to Columbia in 1994. She is survived by her son, Robert G. Atkinson and his wife Sandy of St Charles, MO, a Sister-in-Law, Ruth Atkinson of Columbia, a Daughter-in –Law, Charlotte Atkinson of Columbia, grandchildren, Phil & Sheri Atkinson, Lisa & Aaron Neugarten, Kimberly Godbey and Dana & Mark Baumann, great grandchildren, Megan & Sam Atkinson, Andrew & Emily Neugarten, Hannah, Rachel & Zachary Godbey and Amanda, Kyle & Sarah Baumann. She was preceded in death by her parents, husbands, two brothers, one sister and one son, William A. Atkinson. Memorials may be sent to the American Heart Association or the American Cancer Society.
She died on my wife’s and mine 21st anniversary, the card she mailed arrived the day she died and still sits on our kitchen counter. Sheri and I both pick it up and look at it, but can’t yet bring ourselves to open it, as if keeping it unopened somehow hangs onto her. I guess that’s something funny about human nature, it’s not always logical or simply even rational at times and yet it just feels right.
I know time eventually heals all wounds and in time it’ll get easier, but as we sat with her for the last time, on a couch next to her casket, in silence, unable and unwilling to leave her side, I’m not sure any of us said goodbye… perhaps in time.